When the day came to order the trailer, we were hit with a massive dose of “buyers remorse”. That was a surprise to us! We hadn’t had any of that emotion previously. Once the trailer was ordered, though…. that meant we were obliged to build something on top of it! What a challenge!
The “buyer’s remorse” thoughts sounded like general fear: “WHAT were we THINKING…. we don’t know how to build a house…. what if we build it and it falls apart…. what if we fall off a ladder and get hurt…. what if we get it partly done and have to give up for some reason… what if…. what if… what if…. WHAT WERE WE THINKING?!?!?!?!”
Fortunately, we both know that it’s just an ordinary fear reaction based on being suddenly faced with the enormity of a project. We both know that we are dedicated to creating this home for ourselves, to enhance our lives and eventually our retirement years. Talking it through together, it is clear that neither of us truly wants to bail on the project. At that point the fear became funny.
Our solution to the fear response: Take it one step at a time.
It’s scary when you say to yourselves “Now we have to build a house”. It’s not scary at all to say “Now we have to make a materials list for building the underflooring”. After that, we say “Now we have to cut twelve 2×6” boards to this length”. Also not scary to say. Next come the most soothing words of all: “Now we have to schedule a date for Tom the carpenter to come over and lead us through the first big workday!”
And, the work has begun!